The Private Relationship Map

Don't know someone who can help? Your friends might.

Request access Try it with made-up people

I

One friend may know more people than you think.

Your friend Marcus has 212 people. A few might help with what your people need. Counts, never names.

You send each introduction.

So who gets the call?

II

Pastors, governors, CEOs and the people who run their days. Lenders and agents.

People come to you.

A job, a lender, a good contractor, a fresh start. They call you, and you know who to ask.

We call them Charioteers™, after the constellation on our seal: the one who holds the reins.

The reins get heavy.

III

It all lives in your head.

Two hundred people. A birthday slips. A friend's friend might have helped. Nobody knew to ask.

III

Everyone at once

Everyone you know, or one circle.

  1. IYou, at the center
  2. IIEveryone you know
  3. IIIWho knows whom
  4. IVFamily, friends, work

Begin with one.

IV

Start with one friend.

  1. I

    Put your people on the map.

    Everyone you know on a private 3D map, birthdays included.

  2. II

    Connect with a friend.

    Their card shows how many of their people might help. Counts, never names.

Next: lunch with Jordan.

V

Walk in already knowing

On the way in: Marge Example, Ada Example, and the lender he asked about.

Example

Jordan Reyes

Family
Wife Marge Example. Daughter Ada Example
Asked
A lender for the March refinance

Reminders for birthdays and the follow-ups you set.

Now on a phone.

VI

Inside the app

Tap to enlarge.

Screens from the app. The people in them are made up.

Who else sees this?

In one large study, a Facebook user with 100 friends had 27,500 friends of friends, enough to fill Portland's 25,218-seat Providence Park and still have people waiting outside.

VII

No public directory

Read the privacy policy
  • IWe don't sell your data.
  • IIYour contacts stay on your map, and there's no public directory of members.
  • IIINo other member can see the people on your map.

By request.

The Know Them Well seal

VIII · Charioteers

Membership

For the one who holds the reins.

Joining is by request for now.

Your first month is on us. The first 100 members then pay $20 a month, locked in for as long as they stay members. Cancel anytime.

Every founding member gets a hand-signed letter mailed to their home, so joining asks for a mailing address.

We only ask for your email. See the privacy page.

See inside the app

Questions

  • What is a second-degree connection?
    It's someone one of your friends knows who you haven't met yet. On Know Them Well, you see how many of them may be able to help with a need. Counts, never names.
  • How do I ask a friend for a warm introduction?
    Tell your friend what you need and why it matters. Ask whether they know someone they trust and would feel good introducing. Afterward, thank them and tell them how it went.
  • Does Know Them Well work with my calendar?
    Yes. You can connect Google, Outlook or iPhone calendars. Know Them Well shows a short list of who you're seeing this week and adds each meeting to a separate Know Them Well calendar with a link to your notes, unless it's already on your calendar.
  • Who can see my meeting prep?
    Only you. Your notes open only after you sign in, and the calendar entry shows just the meeting and a name. People who aren't in your map appear only as a count.
  • The assistant uses an outside AI provider and asks your permission before anything from your map or your friends' cards is sent to it.